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Thoughtful Tuesday: Cycle of Friendship

Life can get truly hard sometimes, but what’s life without support?  I don’t know what it is about getting older but it seems that friendship is a word reserved only for the few. The box of “someone I used to know”  and acquaintances becomes larger and larger. Some people do cleaning and are very good at cutting off people from their lives, when they truly open their eyes. As the weeks, months and years go by, some people drop off your radar, some you had a disagreement with and some you notice are just not what you need.  Some you may never had an argument with– but life just gets the better of you.

All in all there is a season for everything. If you are the type to keep grudges, then you definitely have a long way to go. Grudges never solved anything and it’s a waste of time on someone who may not even be thinking about you. My question is “Whom do you choose to surround yourself with?  “

Do you have people constantly bringing you down, highlighting your weakness? You always feel like the underdog or when leaving their company you feel bad about yourself? If this is happening to you then I suggest you walk away. Life is way too hard and short for you to be surrounded by negativity.

One thing we need to learn is people treat us the way we allow them to treat us. If you are the “yes man/woman” who ends up always doing last minute favours (which are sometimes ridiculously labourous)  for a friend you need to think twice. Is the act being reciprocated? Of course kindness is a virtue few have.  The act of doing things with no expectations in return, but when does this constitute to being USED? Pay attention dear readers. What do your actions say about you? Are you learning to say “NO”?  That yes, you would have loved to help but you needed more time to prepare. If the person gets angry… you have your answer. Do you know your worth?  Are you being appreciated or being taken for granted?

Don’t let yourself be a doormat.

“The reason people awaken is because they have finally stopped agreeing to things that insult their soul.”–unkown

Of course we all have that friend who may be less diplomatic and throw caution to the wind with their behaviour. If they are well meaning and helpful, is it right to highlight their behaviour? Or should we encourage them to be conscious of their surrounding and assess the situation before they let themselves out. Can we truly be ourselves in a world that tells us that we have to conform?

Doormat slipping

Who is a friend? Friendship can be an extension of the family you have or never had. How much do you value friendship?  If you don’t why? If you do, let me know, you can comment below or start a conversation on my Facebook page.

I stumbled on this last week and it made me chuckle

“ You want to come in my life, the door is open. You want to get out of my life, the door is open. Just one request.  Don’t stand at the door, you’re blocking traffic.”—Unknown

Quite fitting, change is indeed constant don’t get stuck in the past.

Have a friendly week and show those you consider friends they are appreciated. Everyone wants to feel appreciated.

Namaste

Donna

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    Jean
    27/07/2015 at 16:46

    Amazing Post . I always chose to keep my circle small and to surround myself with people who I know really care about me.

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